It is amazing that women and men perceive the world in different ways, yet they want to be together and even live together in the same household. Have you ever wondered what causes discord in families? Differences in thinking and worldviews are a major cause. A decade ago, men and women may have lived happily together, but that was because their respective roles were clear. They complemented each other. The man was first and foremost the hunter, responsible for obtaining food for his family, and the protector. Women borechildren, cared for them, cared for men, and createddomestic comforts. It was simple. Women valued in men the ability to hunt prey and bring it to the family. Men valued in women the ability to take care of their children, care for their homes, and bring their families together.
Today, however, these old role divisions are no longer valid. The roles of men and women cannot be clearly defined. Each role is intertwined. The livelihood of the family no longer depends on the male alone. Women no longer have to stay home and take care of the children and the home. Former values have collapsed. Chaos has ensued. Communication has broken down and misunderstandings have occurred. Our brains still contain the genetic information of the men who hunted and the women who guarded the hearth. How do we apply these programs to our present civilized age? We must learn. The more we recognize the differences between the worldviews of men and women, the better we can understand each other. Communication, compromise, and tolerance play an important role in partnership life today.
To illustrate this, here are some examples of the differences between men and women:
– Men are not good conversationalists and speak concisely and clearly
– For women, speaking is necessary and they need to convey their impressions and thoughts; men enjoy being heard
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– Women can focus on several things at once
– Men have very good spatial perception and are good at orienting themselves in space and on maps (there is a special center for spatial orientation in the brain)
– Women usually have poor orientation skills, men have poor orientation skills Men talk about things, how they work, activities (sports, work, where they went, what they did)
– Women talk about relationships and personal things (who likes whom, who they hang out with, family, friends, fashion)
Much more could be written about the differences between the sexes. Much more could be written about the Recognizing and accepting the differences between men and women, and not asking the other to conform to their ideas and expectations, is important for men and women to coexist harmoniously.